A couple weeks ago I was browsing the target baby clothes section. It is something I found myself doing often before I was pregnant, but eventually during our infertility season it just became too hard to even walk by the baby aisles at any store without feeling the gut wrenching heart ache of my own empty womb. During the first year of our struggles, I would actually buy little outfits for our babies. I had to stop because it became more torturous than anything else. So now, expecting my three hope babies, I enjoy parading the aisles, especially all the adorable baby clothes.
Ryan and I have plenty of baby clothes for our little trio, but still, I love browsing the target baby section. As I held these adorable baby boy outfits in my hand that I knew we just had to get, I found myself in conversation with one of the target employees.
“Awww…when are you due?” She said.
I usually know where the conversation leads to next. People are fascinated and excited for us–and usually in shock that I have three growing humans inside my body. To be honest, it’s often a nice moment to share the joy of my three babies with someone I don’t even know. I love sharing this incredible joy with most people.
“We are actually having triplets, so our goal is late August.” I told her.
Her eyes got big. And she had such a big smile of shock on her face.
There was a pause. I smiled and thanked her. I told her how excited we were and thought the conversation was over. However, it wasn’t. She then asked what sometimes feels like the inevitable question from random strangers who ask about my pregnancy.
“So are they natural?”
I could feel my heart racing and I wished Ryan was around. I have now come face to face with this question several times. I knew exactly what she was asking me: were my babies conceived through sex? Or in a dish outside my body? Are they spontaneous? Or did I have fertility treatment? Are they “natural”?”
“We went though In-vitro. These babies are our little hope miracles.”
Fortunately, Ryan was calling and trying to find me. I left the conversation feeling kind of annoyed. I am a pretty open book when it comes to our journey, so I felt silly for being so frustrated by the question, but I was. She was so kind to me and shared in such joy for our babies. And I know this girl had no intention of making me feel the way that I did, however this question caused me to wonder: What does she mean exactly by natural? Are my babies less special or less real because we went through IVF? I am proud of my journey and my IVF miracles. I went through so much to become pregnant and our story is one of hope and beauty. IVF babies are just as real as any other babies. They are just as special, loved, and the way I see it, just as natural.
So here is the best answer I can give to the question, Are they natural?:
Yes, my babies are natural. God knew from the very day He planted the seed of Motherhood in my heart what our story would look like. He knew what the struggles would be and the anthem of hope that would become of our journey. He perfectly orchestrated our story and gave us three precious miracle babies. Like all babies, God has perfectly knitted our babies in my womb. He gave us the miracle of triplets. He brought them into my life at the absolute most perfect timing and has delicately designed every detail as they grow in my womb. He made them and continues to be with the four of us as they grow and prepare for their big debut.